Me: Yes, one of the greatest sources of my joy as a Christian flows from truly believing that God is in control of all things
Them: You mean to tell me that God was in control of the slave trade to America? God was in control of the Holocaust? God was in control of 9/11?
Me: Of course
Them: If God is in control of that, then God is most certainly NOT good, and I want nothing to do with that “God”
Me: Obviously those are horrible, horrible events in history. What I want you to consider, however, is that if God is not in control of those things, what hope would the families of those affected by those awful events have? If God is not sovereign over bringing about difficulties, pain, and suffering, then God is not sovereign over bringing about resolution, healing, and peace. What good would prayer be to a God who does not have the ability to answer it?
Depending on how that conversation went, I would likely want to walk through some scripture from there. The question that must be answered is – “If God is good, what is His good purpose in suffering and hardships?”
Paul begins Romans 5 with a declaration of our salvation in Jesus Christ, and then immediately turns to say that we will have suffering in this life as a Christian.
Romans 5:1-5 – “Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us”
So suffering should produce in us hope.
We see this explained again just 3 chapters ahead in Romans 8:18-25 – “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.”
We are God’s creation, we are a new creation in Christ Jesus (2 Cor 5:17). Part of God’s purpose in suffering is to show that our hope is not in this world, but in Christ.
God’s plan is to use our suffering as a means of comfort to others. 2 Corinthians 1:3-7 – “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.”